The second Love Language is discussed in chapter 4, Gifts. I'm giddy just thinking about this word and what it means:
Something that is bestowed voluntarily and without compensation.
The act, right, or power of giving.
A talent, endowment, aptitude, or inclination
ETYMOLOGY:
Middle English, from Old Norse; see ghabh- in Indo-European roots
http://education.yahoo.com/reference/dictionary/entry/gift
Norse Rune: Gebo = Gift (looks like an X) and whenever I see this symbol or rune in nature it makes me smile.
Questions to Ponder
To what degree was the love language of gifts spoken by your parents to you and to each other?
100%! Gifts were a big deal in my family. my mother, especially, demonstrated love through gift giving. Sometimes it was too much and it was to make up for the fact she wasn't around and of course you had to respond with proper respect and if you didn't like it, she would be devastated. To a degree I am very much lie that; disappointed when someone doesn't like a gift I give or they don't demonstrate their appreciation in a manner that I expect.
To what degree do you give gifts to those you love and care for?
I love giving gifts (small or large, cheap or expensive) I definitely show my appreciation and affection through tokens
What i s the last gift you gave and to whom did you give it?
Just the other day, I gave my boss two small boxes of Hot Tamales (his favorite candy) and to my co-workers I gave each a small box of Mike & Ikes cause they all like that kind of candy. No reason, it was a Monday and I was just saying "Hi".
Do you find speaking the love language of gifts difficult, or does it come naturally for you? Why?
Its easy peasy Japaneasy! My greatest joy is getting the perfect gift for someone and seeing them smile. To me, i show I care an am interested by giving tokes and gifts. I learned from my mom. I show that you are important to me because I listened to your likes and dislikes and I show you that by giving you this great gift.
In your conversation with others, do you consciously listen for gift idea? Would keeping a gift list in your notebook be helpful to you?
I really do pay attention and hardly ever doubt my gift giving capabilities. I do talk about my purchases with other people. But that's not really about doubting the gift. It is more of me "talking" about how good of a person I am to be giving such a great gift to someone and I want to share this info so that they can hear (see) the love I have for the person I am giving the gift to and they are impressed by my generosity and love. I use lists for many things, but because this gift giving seems to by my thing, I rarely use a list to keep track. Except at holiday time with the list is HUGE.
If you enjoy receiving gifts, from whom would you most like t receive one? Would it be appropriate for you to give this person a gift this week.
I enjoy receiving gifts, but it is a double edge sword for me. If the gift is crappy or very little thought went into it (and I know it, like Clyde running out the night before b-day/holiday); that makes me upset and frustrated and hurt and very disappointed. On the other hand if its is too extravagant, I mis-trust it instantly and begin to worry what the giver expects in return or I question my self worth against the gift. However, if it is "perfect" and unexpected, I'm usually overwhelmed with delight and joy.
I always tell my kids the best gift they can give me is to be well behaved and take care of the things I give them.
The gifts I gave this week: Candy at the office, Sent a card to my sister, wrote a letter to my little brother and the gift of love to my children.
xox
Ursula
Something that is bestowed voluntarily and without compensation.
The act, right, or power of giving.
A talent, endowment, aptitude, or inclination
ETYMOLOGY:
Middle English, from Old Norse; see ghabh- in Indo-European roots
http://education.yahoo.com/reference/dictionary/entry/gift
Norse Rune: Gebo = Gift (looks like an X) and whenever I see this symbol or rune in nature it makes me smile.
Questions to Ponder
To what degree was the love language of gifts spoken by your parents to you and to each other?
100%! Gifts were a big deal in my family. my mother, especially, demonstrated love through gift giving. Sometimes it was too much and it was to make up for the fact she wasn't around and of course you had to respond with proper respect and if you didn't like it, she would be devastated. To a degree I am very much lie that; disappointed when someone doesn't like a gift I give or they don't demonstrate their appreciation in a manner that I expect.
To what degree do you give gifts to those you love and care for?
I love giving gifts (small or large, cheap or expensive) I definitely show my appreciation and affection through tokens
What i s the last gift you gave and to whom did you give it?
Just the other day, I gave my boss two small boxes of Hot Tamales (his favorite candy) and to my co-workers I gave each a small box of Mike & Ikes cause they all like that kind of candy. No reason, it was a Monday and I was just saying "Hi".
Do you find speaking the love language of gifts difficult, or does it come naturally for you? Why?
Its easy peasy Japaneasy! My greatest joy is getting the perfect gift for someone and seeing them smile. To me, i show I care an am interested by giving tokes and gifts. I learned from my mom. I show that you are important to me because I listened to your likes and dislikes and I show you that by giving you this great gift.
In your conversation with others, do you consciously listen for gift idea? Would keeping a gift list in your notebook be helpful to you?
I really do pay attention and hardly ever doubt my gift giving capabilities. I do talk about my purchases with other people. But that's not really about doubting the gift. It is more of me "talking" about how good of a person I am to be giving such a great gift to someone and I want to share this info so that they can hear (see) the love I have for the person I am giving the gift to and they are impressed by my generosity and love. I use lists for many things, but because this gift giving seems to by my thing, I rarely use a list to keep track. Except at holiday time with the list is HUGE.
If you enjoy receiving gifts, from whom would you most like t receive one? Would it be appropriate for you to give this person a gift this week.
I enjoy receiving gifts, but it is a double edge sword for me. If the gift is crappy or very little thought went into it (and I know it, like Clyde running out the night before b-day/holiday); that makes me upset and frustrated and hurt and very disappointed. On the other hand if its is too extravagant, I mis-trust it instantly and begin to worry what the giver expects in return or I question my self worth against the gift. However, if it is "perfect" and unexpected, I'm usually overwhelmed with delight and joy.
I always tell my kids the best gift they can give me is to be well behaved and take care of the things I give them.
The gifts I gave this week: Candy at the office, Sent a card to my sister, wrote a letter to my little brother and the gift of love to my children.
xox
Ursula
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